How To Get Laid In 2025 (Ultimate Guide)

How do I get laid?

In this guide, I will show you the best ways to get laid fast. Whether you’re a virgin or someone with a high notch count, we are going to show you strategies you can utilize to improve your sex & dating life with minimal effort.

And in today’s world, the easiest way to get laid is through dating apps, such as Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, etc…and I’m going to show you exactly how to do it. Along with tips to give her the best sexual experience of her life.

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1) How to get laid on tinder?
2) How to have sex on the first date?
3) How to make a girl horny?
4) How to sext?
5) How to last longer in bed?
6) How to eat a girl out?
7) How to have a threesome?

How to get laid on Tinder?

As previously mentioned, Tinder and other dating apps can be very valuable tools in helping you have more sex. However, this is only if you use them correctly, which the majority of men do not. Here are the steps to doing it the right way:

1) Get the best possible photos – There is no getting around this. The majority of men have horrible Tinder pics. If you want to see for yourself, just create a profile as a girl and prepare for the cringe. I have covered what makes a good photo very extensively in other guides, so I won’t repeat myself. I will mention though, that pretty much everyone is capable of this. I don’t care what ethnicity you are or what kind of excuse you have, countless guys were in the same shoes and were able to make it happen. For more specifics, check out my tinder profile photo guide

2) Screen with your profile – There is a common misconception that you don’t want to be sexual in your profile. This is false. If you’re looking to get laid or even something more serious, your profile needs to be polarizing. If you’re in good shape, I recommend a shirtless photo (yes, they work quite well). In addition, your bio needs to be at least somewhat sexual. This will screen out the girls who are looking to wait until marriage and entice the girls who are also looking to have sex (there are plenty of them). Go here if you want to see examples of great tinder bios

3) Show Intent- Guys on tinder will typically beat around the bush forever. They avoid sexualizing because they’re worried about “creeping the girl out”. This is a horrible strategy, though. I’m not saying to ask girls “wanna fuck?” off the opener, but you do need to show sexual intent in a socially intelligent way. I typically start with sexual innuendos and escalate from there based on her response. Here is an example of this from a hot polish virgin I wound up sleeping with

4) Invite the girl to your place – If you have followed the three previous steps, you’re going to be surprised just how many girls are willing to come straight to your place or at least I was. There are a lot of dtf girls on dating apps, and you need to capitalize on that by being efficient…and there’s nothing more efficient than a girl coming straight over. If a girl declines, then just the act of you inviting her straight over helps set a more sexual frame.

To see the rest of the steps as well as more details, go to my full guide on how to get laid on tinder

How to have sex on the first date?

Contrary to popular belief, sex on the first date is definitely possible with the majority of women if you do it right. Here are the 3 steps to sealing the deal

Step 1: Set the right vibe & frame – You need to have that flirty and sexual vibe from the beginning. Most guys play it too safe, come off platonic, and get friend-zoned before the date even begins. Instead, you start with having at least a semi sexual bio. Then you continue that same energy over text. This can range from sexual innuendos to full-on sexting and everything in between.

Finally, when you meet up, you hold strong eye contact, build sexual tension, touch the girl, and ultimately physically escalate towards sex. You’ll be surprised how many girls will be receptive to a guy who is consistent from the start.

Step 2: screen her – In real life, you want to test her response to light flirting and mild sexualization. If she plays along, slowly turn up the heat. For online, I used to ask, “What are you looking for on here?” once there was some buy-in. If your profile’s sexual enough, this filters fast. These days, I screen more subtly—through the whole interaction and in how I frame the date itself. Inviting her to my place is part of the test.

Step 3. set up good logistics: Dates should enable sex, not get in the way. Skip dinners, group hangs, or halfway meetups. I stick to 4 options: her place, my place, bar walking distance to my place, walk, or coffee near my place

My go-to is inviting her over “to split a bottle of wine on my romantic patio.” It’s low-pressure but clear. Responses usually fall into 3 categories:

• Yes: These girls are the most down. Some may want reassurance (safety, expectations, etc.). Handle it smoothly, and they’ll show up.

• Wants public first: Cool. Offer a nearby bar. Girls will typically appreciate you being understanding and because the sexual tone was clear from the start, the attitude usually is “if this goes well, then we’re gonna have sex”

• Gets offended: Rare if you’ve framed things right. Either way, you just saved yourself a wasted night.

Pro tip: Never do halfway meetups. They rarely go anywhere. Hold your frame—sometimes the girl will “cave” and agree to your plan.

To see the rest of the steps along with all the examples, check out my full guide on how to have sex on the first date

How to make a girl horny?

Now you’re on the date, what do you do next? Your job is in big part to build sexual tension and turn the girl on as much as possible. This will make all the difference between you getting laid or getting a “let’s just be friends” text. There are two types of ways to get a girl horny: physical escalation and verbal escalation. Let’s start with physical first:

Step 1: Light touches on the arm or hand – Start simple. A quick, casual touch on her arm or hand is the easiest way to break the physical barrier. Do it naturally, like when she says something funny or cute. Keep it light, brief, and effortless.

Step 2: Physical proximity – You could argue this should happen before touching, but either way, shrinking the distance amps up the tension fast. If she leans back, take the hint — ease up and focus on vibing again

Step 3: Light touches on the leg or knee – Same idea as Level 1, but the knee is going to be more intimate. A soft touch on her knee or thigh signals a shift toward something more sexual, so don’t jump here too soon. Wait until you’ve already touched her arm comfortably.

Step 4: Longer touches and gentle rubbing – Now, instead of pulling your hand away after a second or two, you leave it there, lightly stroking her leg while keeping the conversation flowing. Combine it with a little flirtier talk to keep things feeling natural and smooth.

Step 5: Playing with her hair – This is usually the final step before the kiss. Lightly run your fingers through her hair while maintaining strong eye contact. At this point, there’s a good chance she’ll be the one to close the distance and go for the kiss.

Closing the deal – Once you’ve built enough sexual tension using the earlier steps, it’s time to go for the kiss. Start slow — once you’re making out, trail kisses down her neck while your hands roam her lower back or ass. Keep working your way down, kissing her body until you reach her chest. For most girls, having their nipples sucked is insanely hot. From there, you can guide her hand to your dick, slip her top off, or pin her against the wall. The mission is simple: get her so turned on that she’s practically begging for it.

To learn more about the 5 verbal steps along with never before heard tips & tricks, check out our full guide on how to make a girl horny

How to sext?

Most guys come off cringey when they try to sext, but done right, sexting can massively level up your text game. First rule: Use proper grammar and spelling — no girl’s getting hot over texts that read like a toddler’s homework. Clean, coherent sentences make you sound like a man who knows what he’s doing. Next, get descriptive — paint erotic scenes like an erotica novel, but make it personal by weaving in her specific traits and familiar places. It’s about making her vividly imagine being with you, not just throwing random dirty lines at her.

Calibrate your texting — know when the moment’s right to turn things sexual. If you haven’t met her yet or things have been light, ease into it with “permission baiting” (utilizing her curiosity ex: “you have one of my weaknesses”). Timing matters too — don’t ghost her mid-sext that will kill the vibe, but don’t blast her phone like a desperate dude either. Keep the rhythm playful and teasing.

Also, obvious but necessary: leave out anything creepy like rape fantasies. Bonus move: Use your voice. A sexy, confident voice note can melt her way faster than text, especially late at night when she’s relaxed and ready. And remember: only sext when you’re free to meet up. Build the tension when you’re ready to actually make it happen, not when you’re stuck on a business trip a thousand miles away. Here are two examples of good sexting below:

         

As you can see, this is very descriptive. In the convo on the left,t you can see a lot of build up, which is important. Don’t just jump into “im gonna fuck the shit out of you”. You need to build up to it. Books like 50 Shades of Grey and My Secret Garden will teach you a lot about female sexuality. For more details and examples, check out my full guide on how to sext a girl

How to last longer in bed?

There is nothing worse than when you finally get a beautiful girl naked, only to proceed to finish in under 2 minutes. Not only does it feel like you’re missing out, but you also significantly reduce the likelihood of the girl coming back for more. I say this from personal experience because this used to constantly happen to me. But with these tricks I learned to last a lot longer

1) Alternating between eating a girl out and sex – I think for most guys the sequence is they go down on a girl and then they fuck her. However, it is much better to just alternate between the two. When you catch yourself getting close to cumming, you simply pull out and go down on the girl for a minute or two. Then, when you’ve “cooled down” you can go right back to sex. This can be used to last a lot longer…and also the girl will love it

2) Going slower & deeper – A lot of guys try to replicate porn when they have sex with a girl which just involves jackhammering her until they finish. This however will make you cum faster and also lower the pleasure for the girl. Instead, you want to slow down for most of the session and go slow and deep. This will be more enjoyable for the girl and allow you to last longer

3) Kratom – In case you’re not familiar with Kratom, it is a herb that you can get over the counter in many places (I prefer to order online). It is 100% legal. In addition to giving you a very pleasant buzz, it will also help you last a lot longer. For myself personally, it was a massive game changer. Mandatory note: This is not in any way medical advice.

To see more tips & tricks, go to my full guide on lasting longer in bed

How to eat a girl out?

Being able to eat pussy well is like a sexual superpower. This is because the vast majority of men are trash in bed. According to research, only about 18% of women orgasm during first time sex with a new partner. Girls will bend over backwards for a guy who can make them orgasm, especially if it’s from eating her out. Here is how you do it:

Step 1: Foreplay – I typically start with a light massage during which I take her pants off. This is not mandatory though; you can also just pull off her pants and start kissing down her legs. You tease her, getting a little bit closer to her vagina each time. Take your time here; building the anticipation is non-negotiable.

Step 2: Tease her – Now you get closer to her pussy. Don’t use your tongue yet. Just kiss around her thigh and outer lips. Sometimes, pulling back just to mess with her mind. Meanwhile, I also spread her legs wider, which establishes dominance

You keep kissing all around the vagina, still without using tongue. When I see her breathing getting heavier, I move in and kiss right over the clit — a soft tease, nothing more.

Step 3: Bring out the tongue – Now that she’s really turned on and moaning, you can start using your tongue. You wanna roll it around her whole vagina, without going for the clit just yet. This will get her to a point where the anticipation becomes unbearable and she’s silently begging for it.

Step 4: Lick the clit – A good trick is to trace the alphabet on her clit or just going in circles is fine. Switching patterns scrambles her brain in the best way. Once you find a pattern that turns her on the most though, stick to it until she cums

To learn the rest of the steps as well as tips & tricks, check out my full guide on how to eat a girl out

How to have a threesome?

For a lot of guys, this is the ultimate fantasy, and I’m going to show you how to make it happen from scratch. The first step is to fire up Tinder and get a cute girl over. After reading the prior sections, you should know exactly how to accomplish this. Don’t mention anything about the threesome yet

Next, you fuck the shit out of your Tinderella. Afterwards, as you’re lying in bed in a sex coma, you bring up the idea of a threesome. I like to just ask “hey btw do you like girls at all?”. Most women do to some extent. You just need to show that you’re not going to judge her. Once she confirms, you propose the threesome. Tie it into her fantasies (not yours).

Now that she’s on board, you guys work as a team. Create a “threesome profile” on both of your Tinder accounts. For her account, this would include switching “what she’s looking for” to girls. In addition to adding a couple of your best photos. For yourself, no switching is required; you just need to add some of her hottest photos to your profile

From then on, it’s a matter of finding a second girl and moving things forward. To see a step-by-step breakdown, along with my real-life examples of pulling this off, go to my how to have a threesome guide

Conclusion

In 2025, getting laid has never been easier or faster (as long as you follow the right strategy). Use the advice in this guide to get girls over straight to your place, have sex on the first date, and agree to a threesome. In addition, learn how to be better in bed so you can give her the ultimate sexual experience and keep her coming back for more.

I want to end this guide off with some extra motivation. Here is an example of how an average guy was able to sleep with a hot girl off Tinder in a few hours. See the full story + screenshots here