How to make a girl horny?

There are many ways to get a girl horny, most of them break down into two categories: building sexual tension and escalation. An example of building sexual tension, might be having strong eye contact or speaking more slowly. An example of escalation would be making out with her or kissing her neck. This all, of course, needs to be done in a very smooth & progressive way.

Building sexual tension to get her horny

Out of the two categories I mentioned, this one should take place first (most of the time). You want to already have some level of sexual tension before you start touching her and trying to physically turn her on. This leads us to the question of how does one build sexual tension? Here are the multiple ways at your disposal:

1) Proximity – just by sitting/standing closer to the girl, you add to the sexual tension. Of course, you want to use common sense here. Don’t just start the date by sitting creepily close to her, but as the date unfolds and the vibe is good, you can pull your chair a bit closer to increase the sexual tension.

Pro tip: If you have a balcony, I recommend bringing a girl on it and then coming up and standing behind her as she looks onwads. If she is comfortable with that you can lightly rub you crotch against her ass and watch the sexual tension explode

2) Tonality – I naturally speak pretty fast. If you watch me with my friends, you’ll see me going a mile a minute. However, on a date, I massively slow things down. Speaking in a slow & seductive way will definitely add to the sexual tension

Pro tip: add some pauses here and there, even allow brief moments of silence, it will all add to the tension

3) Teasing – This is one of my favorites. Playfully teasing the girl adds a lot of sexual tension. Most guys are too afraid to try it, and so as an additional benefit, you will also stand out from all the guys who are afraid to take social risks

Pro tip: Don’t worry about offending the girl. It is better to come off like an asshole than as a “nice guy”. Assholes get laid, nice guys dont.

4) Eye contact – another favorite of mine, and it is super straightforward. Just hold good eye contact as you talk to her; this is a great way to build sexual tension without even risking coming off as creepy. Most people have terrible eye contact, and this will also make you stand out

Pro tip: Don’t be afraid to “eye fuck” the girl. Having that laser eye contact might make her a bit nervous, but it will also massively turn her on

5) Sexual topics: this one is last for a reason. Going straight to sexual topics can make you come off thirsty. However, when you create some sexual tension first (using the other 4 techniques), the odds that it will be well received skyrocket

Pro tip: A great way to start off is through sexual innuendos. Combining humor with sex talk is a great way to “grease the wheels”

Escalating to get her horny

Now that you’ve built sexual tension, it is time to start physically escalating. Guys often pussy foot way too much when it comes to this and the girl eventually looses attraction. It is always better to try and get rejected, rather than not try at all. I’m going to show you the steps to physical escalation so this goes as smoothly as possible

Step 1: Light touches on the arm or hand – this is the lightest form of physical escalation. Casually touch her hand or arm for a few seconds — ideally at a natural point in the conversation, like after she says something you like. Keep it quick and effortless.

Step 2: Light touches on the knee or leg – same idea as Level 1, but now you’re touching her lower body. A hand on her leg is way more sexual than a hand on her arm, so save this move for after you’ve done the arm

Step 3: Extended touches & rubbing her leg – Now instead of pulling your hand away after a few seconds, you leave it there — gently rubbing her leg while you keep the conversation going. Do this in combination with verbal escalation so it feels natural.

Step 4: Running your hand through her hair – This is usually the final step before the make-out. Lightly play with her hair — if you’ve done everything right up to this point, her eyes should light up and she should be quite horny. She might even be the one to close the gap and kiss you. 

Step 5: Getting her to your room —This is called logistical escalation. The easiest way to do it is just to lead the girl to your room once some sexual tension is built or you can offer her a massage or say you want to show her something. The exact wording doesn’t matter as long as you LEAD rather than ask. (Also, this level can come at any time after Level 1)

Sealing the Deal

Once you’ve built adequate sexual tension by following some of the previously mentioned steps, you want to go in for the kiss. Once you’re making out, start slowly kissing down her neck while your hands explore her lower back or ass. Keep going lower, kissing down her body until you reach her chest. For most girls, sucking on her nipples is a huge turn-on. After that, you can guide her hand to your dick, take her top off, or push her up against the wall. The goal is simple: make her so horny that she’s begging for sex⁠

Pro tip – buy some BDSM items on Amazon, like handcuffs or a paddle, and have them lying on your counter in a very obvious place. Once a girl notices this, it’s gonna further add to the sexual tension and could provide a very easy path to sex.

5 additional ways to make a girl horny

1) Hair pulling: This instantly puts most girls in a submissive mode. Girls love having their hair pulled. Why? It gives them a feeling that you’re going to be taking control of her body with her head as the first step. Keep in mind not to yank her hair; always grip the root of her hair by grabbing a fistful of it.

I typically do this when I’m going for a make out. You can gauge a girl’s make-out meter by how long she’s holding eye contact with the expression of “Well?”. Grab her around the waist with one hand and pull her close to you as you grip her hair and make out. This is kryptonite for the ladies. This gets them wet to no bounds.

2) Neck kisses: After the make out, the next step I go for is that I tilt her head to the side and kiss on the side of the neck, up and down her shoulder. I recommend doing this within a minute or two of the make-out. Waiting too long can kill the tension. Women love having their necks kissed, and this can massively make them horny.

Pro tip: There are three erogenous zones that women have that can make them extremely horny. Either the ear, the neck, or the collarbone. Most of the time, it’ll be the last two. It can also be more than one. Once you find the zone, you should see her eyes light up and even hear some moaning. Kissing there will be the key to getting her very horny.

3) Grabbing the ass: If she’s giving a green light for the above two, I start grabbing her booty without any hesitation. When grabbing it, I might say “oh my look at that ass”. Next, I might give it a light spank from outside her dress. This shows dominance, and since most girls love being spanked, she will be turned on without fail. If she’s wearing a dress, I even tend to ask her to turn around and show her booty. I lift the dress up ever so slightly and then give another spank. “Mmm. Can it handle a good spanking?”

4) Nipple stimulation: Most women have very sensitive nipples. Once we are making out and I start kissing down her body, I will spend extra time on her nipples. Kissing and sucking on them until she is extra horny

5) Lifting her up: This is a true dominant move, and I’ve noticed girls are turned on like a switch when this is done right. If you work out and go to the gym, this shouldn’t be too hard. I typically lift the girl up while making out, make out more, move her closer to the bed, and throw her on it. BOOM! She’s going to be wet.

3 Sexual Tension Killers to Avoid

1. Nervous laughter: Stay away from this at all costs. Be aware that you might do this when you’re not comfortable in a situation. When girls hear this laughter, they can easily tell that you’re uncomfortable and you start losing the sexual tension
2. Breaking pauses in the convo: Breaking pauses when she’s still not feeling comfortable can be good since she gets more and more familiar with you and your vibe. But, once she’s comfortable and the tension starts building, don’t feel the need to talk whenever there’s a pause in the convo. Having those pauses will help build more sexual tension
3. Talking too much: Most guys make the common mistake of talking a lot about themselves, which is a great way to make her lose interest. Especially when the topic is too logical and platonic. As a general rule of thumb, on a date, the girl should talk as much or more than you, but definitely not less (The way to get her to talk more is by asking interesting questions.)

Conclusion

Follow the advice above to make any girl horny. It may seem challenging at first, but eventually it becomes second nature. Another piece of advice, is try to be present in the moment. Don’t overthink this stuff too much, just don’t be afraid of rejection. As previously said, it’s always better to try and fail than not try at all. By trying a girl is at least going to respect you more cause she will see you’re not a pussy and aren’t afraid to go for what you want

To learn more about getting laid, lasting longer in bed, making her orgasm, and more, go to our full guide on how to get laid. Or check out our video demonstration on making a girl horny