Guide to making her cum

Being able to make a girl cum is a sort of sexual superpower. The unfortunate reality for women, is that most guys suck in bed. According to a study, women cum only about 50% of the time during sex (Full NY Post article here). To make matters worse, when it comes to first-time sexual encounters, a woman typically orgasms only 32% of the time (Link to full article here)

I mention all this to really drive the point home how much you will stand out if you make her cum. She will not only value you more, but be significantly more likely to come back for more (even if she’s looking for something serious). So, how do you give her an orgasm?

What is required to make a girl cum?

Foreplay and sexual tension. You can have the best dick game in the world but if there is not adequate sexual tension built the chances of her cum go way down. Thus, the first step is to build massive sexual tension. You want to get her to the point where she is practically begging you to fuck her.

Start off with strong eye contact and light touches. Put your hand on her knee and hold it there a bit while staring her in the eyes. Run your hand through her hair. Tease her. Things like that will build up her anticipation. I recommend making this period of foreplay last at least 20 minutes, if not a bit longer. (Go here for a full guide on making her horny)

How to foreplay?

The foreplay typically happens after you kiss her and before you have sex with her. I recommend starting by making out with her for a few minutes, but don’t overdo it (kills the sexual tension). Afterwards, start kissing down her neck. There are basically 3 erogenous zones that women have: her ear, her neck, or her collarbone. Kiss all three of these areas and see which one she responds to the best, and then focus on that

Afterwards, you can start kissing down her body. I will dedicate a lot of time to her nipples. For most women they are highly sensitive and sucking on them will feel really good. Spend a few minutes kissing her nipples and sucking on them. Start gently and slowly increase the pressure while paying attention to how she reacts. (Go here for a detailed guide on nipple stimulation)

After that, I will keep kissing down her body. I will kiss her thighs, slowly moving closer to her vagina, before pulling back. Basically teasing her to build up the anticipation. Eating her pussy is a great way to make her cum, but don’t just jump into it. Get her very turned on first. From here, you can go in two directions:

1) Massage route:

At this point, if you offer her a massage, she will definitely say yes. However, you can also do it much earlier in the process (as long as it’s after the make-out). Get some coconut oil and have it on your nightstand. Lay her down on her stomach and start rubbing her back with a bit of oil. Spend a minute or two “just massaging”, before making it more sexual.

I will start slowly rubbing down her thighs. Most of the time she will open her legs at this point, but if not I’ll gently do it myself. Progressively get closer and closer to her pussy with your hands, but take some time with it. Again, anticipation is the name of the game.

At this point, I will also usually be kissing her back and/or rubbing up my dick on her. After some more teasing, you can start fingering her. Slow & gentle at first and then picking up the pace. I will do this for at least a few minutes until she is dripping wet. From there, you can say “you want it?” or “say please, daddy”. That kind of teasing will make the sex even more explosive. (Go here for a full guide on giving massages)

2) Pussy eating route

Another direction you can go in is eating her out. If you really, want to really skyrocket your chance of making her cum then stack these together. Being able to eat pussy, like any skill can be learned with practice. There is a sizeable percentage of women who can only orgasm from clitoral stimulation (i.e regular sex doesn’t make them cum) so this skill is invaluable.

Here are the four steps to get started:

Step 1: Anticipation – I usually start with a light massage while slipping off her pants, but hey, you can also just peel them off and dive in with kisses down her legs. Tease your way in, getting closer to the goods with every touch. Slow is sexy — anticipation is everything.

Step 2: Flirt with the Edge – Now you’re close, but no tongue yet. Kiss her thighs, graze her outer lips, then back off — keep her guessing. I like to spread her legs a little wider here, too, just to take control. When her breath gets heavy, plant a soft kiss right on the clit — a tease, nothing more.

Step 3: Use the tongue – She’s needy now — perfect. You can start to incorporate your tongue, but don’t go for the clit just yet. Lick around, explore a bit. The goal is to make her crave that final move like crazy.

Step 4: Clit Game – Now use your tongue on her clit. My favorite technique is to trace the alphabet on her clit. Try different patterns. However, once you find one that she’s really enjoying, focus on that until she orgasms

If you want to go much more in-depth, as well as learn the best tips & tricks, check out my full guide on how to eat a girl out

How to have sex until she cums?

Now that you’ve built massive sexual tension, it’s time for sex. I typically like to make the girl beg for it a little bit as I rub my body against hers. Ill whisper “say please fuck me”. Once she does that, I will slowly slide me dick inside of her. A very common mistake guys make is that they just start jackhammering her (which, according to girls, is a turn off).

Instead, you want to start off by going slow and deep. You will of course increase the speed over time, but good sex should involve you alternating between going hard & fast and slow & deep. You also want to alternate and try different positions. Some girls can cum only from certain ones. Keep alternating until you find one that makes her moan the hardest.

A good one is to do missionary, but with her legs over your shoulders. This allows you to hit her G-spot and is known for making girls cum. Another good one is cowgirl (girl on top). Let her ride your dick for a bit and then when she starts running out of energy, start pumping harder and harder. At the same time, suck on her nipples. This combo is also quite effective

#1 trick to make a girl cum

Get a Hitachi magic want vibrator (or a similar one) and while fucking her put it on her clit. You can do this easily from cowgirl. I have had multiple girls have their first-ever orgasm, just from that. You hit her g spot with your dick, while stimulating her clit. This is a very powerful combo, that will make every girl cum (especially if you’ve built up massive sexual tension.

I will typically start off with regular sex, then after 5-10 min, introduce the vibrator. The cool thing about this is that the girl will associate all the pleasure she has with you (not the vibrator, even if it did the heavy lifting).

Conclusion

Keep in mind, some girls cum really fast and some take a while. But, if you follow everything mentioned in this guide, she will cum. In fact, you can probably give her multiple orgasms. If you can do that, then there’s almost no way she’s not gonna want to see you again.

To learn more about sex and how to get to it, check out our how to get laid guide. Or watch this demo video on the various sexual positions you can do