How to turn a girl on?

In this guide, we will reveal the most important traits required to turn a girl on and want to have sex. Here’s the reality: a lot of women claim to be “good girls” or “not that type of girl”. However, with the right type of guy, they are super dtf and submissive.

I am going to explain the 3 behaviours/triggers that will cause girls to want to have sex much faster than usual. This will allow you to be the guy she turns to for sex, rather than just free dinners

Trigger 1: Sexual authority 

Most women love a guy who knows what he’s doing in bed and radiates sexual confidence. Experience is sexy. But you can’t just directly tell a girl “hey, btw I’m really good in bed”, cause she’s gonna immediately think the exact opposite

Sexual authority needs to be displayed subtly and with social tact. If it comes off like you’re bragging, then it’s game over. Let’s take a look at a real-life example of this

 

As you can see here, he subtly shows sexual authority, both through accurately guessing that she’s submissive (hint: 99% of girls are) and also through having a very grounded, confident vibe. This is also combined with strong eye contact and a total lack of fear in introducing sexual topics. The girl can “just tell” this guy knows what he’s doing in bed

Now, let’s take a look at text convo one of my students had that also demonstrates this concept in great detail

 

So she opens him by referencing his bio and saying she’s intrigued. He starts off with a cold read. What he writes would apply to the vast majority of girls, but she is still amazed he “guesses” all that. Notice how he also subtly sneaks in that he is a dom. Very subtle. Had he just outright said “btw I’m a dom”, it would’ve come off cringe

From there, he just asks really good questions. The girl reveals that she is sexually unfulfilled, which is also EXTREMELY common. By asking questions about her, he is able to continue subtly showing sexual authority. This works extremely well, and she meets him that same night for sex. (Full lay report here)

Trigger 2: Being Non-Judgmental

The majority of men, to some extent, judge a girl based on her sexuality (even if it’s subconsciously). This is probably the biggest reason women are hesitant to be as sexual as they want to be. They are worried about being judged and slut shamed.

You don’t want to be like the majority. You want to be a guy who does NOT judge a girl for her sexuality. Most girls are going to need to see that before really letting their freak flag fly.

You can show that you’re non-judgmental over time by simply not shaming her for anything sexual. Rather, appear intrigued and reward her for being sexual with either your attention, touch, or sharing similar stories. Or you can pre-emptively show her you’re non-judgmental by sharing something that suggests it. Just like the previous trigger, though, it needs to be subtle

Take a look at this real-life date footage for a great example of how my friend (Markus Wolf) was able to accomplish this

 

 

So basically, Markus just shares a story about a different girl that shows he’s not only non-judgmental, but also believes a woman should be free to express her sexuality. In the end, he ultimately winds up pulling this girl back to his place

Now, let’s take a look at how this plays out over text. This is one of my examples. I had a date all set with this girl, and she texted me to flake. It turned out the reason was exactly what we described here. Watch how I was able to turn it around by showing I’m non-judgmental.

Keep in mind, we already had a date locked down. She starts off by rescheduling, so I start digging into what the underlying objection is. I most likely know, but it’s still important for me to get her to spell it out.

Notice, she is worried about looking bad if we have sex (which she believes is likely 😈). I reframe by telling her that I don’t judge and that there’s nothing wrong with sex. She then jumps into her second concern, basically, she’s been pumped and dumped a few times.

I again try to reframe to show that I’m not gonna screw her over. I have to follow up a few times, but eventually she starts to come around. It’s really the contract joke that pushes things over the edge.

 

We’re at the final stretch. She admits that she’s assuming the worst-case scenario, and I reframe that as well, pointing out how silly that mindset is, without coming off as insulting. And ultimately she agrees to coming over for a drink the following night

The next night, there are no issues. She comes over and is almost immediately dtf (not even wearing panties). I wound up seeing this girl multiple times. She was even in one of my vids, see if you can guess which one 🙂

Trigger 3: Being non-needy 

Neediness is one of the biggest turn-offs for girls. No girl wants to have sex with a guy who is desperate for it. And the simple reality is that most men are.

Instead, you want to have the vibe of “Yeah, I wanna fuck you, but if it doesn’t happen, I could care less”. That is a lot more attractive, and by having that abundance mindset, a lot more girls are gonna wanna have sex with you.

Let me show you a real-life example of extreme non-neediness. This is footage of my friend (Austen Summers) at a porn convention. Now, most guys who go to those get really nervous talking to the porn stars and come off very needy. However, Austen is the complete opposite

 

 

Notice how he just has that “I don’t give a fuck vibe”. He is self-amused and just having fun. This is very refreshing for a girl, especially at an event like this where everyone is super nervous & needy. That’s why he ultimately winds up getting the girl’s phone number.

Now, let’s switch over to text and take a look at an example, where my not being needy was literally the thing that sealed the deal with the girl.

So the context here is that I had been trying to make plans with her leading up to this, and she was being difficult. The screenshot on the left begins with her basically trolling. I match her level of investment and keep it chill. My push to meet up is literally “so drinks”

Notice how she flat-out declines my offer and says she is going to a party. Most guys here would either get needy and try to convince her to hang out instead or rage quit. I do neither and respond with a low investment text myself. When a girl is being difficult, sometimes putting the ball in their court with texts like “solution?” can work really well

In the screenshot on the right, I try a Hail Mary text. Notice how her investment increases after that. She goes from saying that she’s going to a party to asking me to meet her for dinner.

The next two screenshots are mainly logistics, but I wanted to include this so you guys can see exactly how everything went down. I think my being so nonchalant and non-needy, while at the same time not being afraid to send very bold texts, is what did the trick here.

Conclusion

I can’t count how many times I slept with a girl who claimed afterwards, she never has sex on the first date. Some are probably lying, but I think there are a lot who are also telling the truth.

Most guys who had gone on a date with them beforehand were not displaying sexual authority or showing that they’re not judgmental. And you don’t wanna be like most guys. By doing the things mentioned here, you will also become her “exception”.

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