How to flirt with a girl?

As you probably know, some conversations create attraction & lead to sex, and some lead to nothing. But most guys don’t know the difference, so they struggle to go from casually talking to flirting and creating sexual tension

So over the last few days, I analyzed 100s of my most successful cold approaches and identified 5 conversation techniques that are easy to help you go from a platonic convo to making things flirty and sexual

First, why is it important to flirt?

Well, because if you want to sleep with the girl, you have no choice. You can’t go from just having a normal platonic convo to having sex. You need to flirt, which is what you will learn in this guide. Failure to do this will likely result in getting friend-zoned or being told “I’m not looking to meet someone”.

Flirting, just like most things, is a skill that you can develop with practice and time.

Technique #1: Sexual innuendos

This is when you make a joke or an indirect remark that suggests something of a sexual nature without directly stating it. I personally do this all the time. Here is a recent example from a conversation I had with a girl

Me: do you have a dog?
Girl: I have a cat!
Me: oh cool, you have a pussy
Girl: laughs
Me: what color is your pussy? I know they’re not all the same
Girl: laughs even more

 

Sexual innuendos are a great way to talk about sexual topics without coming off as creepy. You are using humor to make things a lot more socially acceptable.

Technique #2: Playing Dumb

This is when you playfully pretend like you don’t know what the girl is talking about. Here is an example from a recent interaction I had. The context here is my friend and I just told these girls we should go have a drink at “casa del alex” (i.e, my place).

Girl: Is that your apartment
Me: NO! (with a playful smirk)
Me: You think I’m gonna invite some random girls straight to my place, what kinda guy do you think I am
Girl: Starts laughing
Me: That would be like some kinda pull, and I’m not into that
Girl: keeps laughing

 

 

The girls know that I’m talking about my place, but by playing dumb in a playful manner, I can make the pull a lot less awkward and increase the likelihood of the girl saying yes. And yes, in this example, we did pull the girls.

This technique can also be used in a much more sexual way. For instance, when a sexual topic is being discussed, you could just play dumb and pretend you have no idea what she is talking about and have her “explain it to you”. As long as this is done in a playful way, it is very effective

Technique 3: Playful Trolling

This is when you “mess” with the girl. The key is that it must be done in a playful, lighthearted way. If you come off mean-spirited or like you’re trying to take shots at her, things will go downhill

Here is an example. I was talking to a girl and said, “I’m just looking for my 3rd wife”. She said, “No way, I’m always first. And I responded, “You’re not ready for that”. Then I proceed to tell her that when someone joins a company, they don’t just become CEO; they have to work their way up. And she started laughing

 

 

Trolling like this is a great way to make the conversation a lot more fun & flirty. Just be careful not to overdo it, as that can make you come off weird.

 Technique #4: Roleplay

This is when you’re creating a fictional scenario with a girl. Typically, it will also incorporate some level of humor (although not always). A recent example of this I found during a virtual speed date I went on with a Brazilian girl

I told her she should try dating a russian guy (my background), because it’s the best. She asked for a preview of that experience, and I said, “Okay, I’m gonna stick my hand through the computer so you can feel it”. And we kinda acted it out. This is roleplay. We are playing out a fictional scenario

 

 

Roleplay can also be used in the bedroom. Girls tend to LOVE IT!. College professor and student, she’s speeding, and you’re the cop that pulled her over, etc.

Technique 5: future projection & hypotheticals

Somewhat similar to a roleplay, this is when you’re creating a hypothetical scenario with both of you that hasn’t happened yet. For example, I was on an e-date with a porn star. And I created a humorous hypothetical for a new genre of porn we should do. Video below

 

 

There are MANY other ways to do this. For instance, let’s say you’re talking to a girl, you can create a hypothetical that you guys are getting married.

“I got us 6 weeks in that villa you love in the south of France.”

She might say “oh how thoughtful of you” and I build on it by saying “And don’t worry, I pitched in extra so we can get the room with the sex swing, like last time”.

This doesn’t need to be just sexual either; it can be romantic. You can say, “So, when we’re married with 3 kids, do you think we will fight a lot?”. Ofcourse, any type of hypothetical needs to flow well with whatever the preceding conversation is.

Also, a hypothetical is a great way to “test the waters” to see how a girl will respond to further sexualization.

Conclusion

Start using one or ideally all of these techniques today, and you’ll notice your conversations becoming more fun, flirty, and sexual. When you’re ready to take things to the next level—whether it’s learning how to sexualize over text or knowing exactly what to do on a date—our program, Ultimate Dating Blueprint 2.0, is the fastest way to get there.

Inside, you’ll also get access to our private mastermind group, where I personally coach you through your dating challenges every single day. On top of that, you’ll join weekly group coaching calls on Zoom, so you’re never stuck without guidance.

 

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