Guide to making a girl horny

The way to make a girl horny is through building sexual tension and escalation. An example of building sexual tension, might be having strong eye contact. And example of escalation would be making out with her or putting her hand on your dick. This all of course needs to be done in a very smooth & progressive way.

Escalation can be categorized into two types: verbal and physical. Both are very good at making her horny. Here are the steps to follow for each:

5 levels of verbal escalation

Level 1: Playful jokes with a sexual edge — Start light, but don’t be afraid to flirt right out of the gate. You’re feeling out her vibe with humor. If she says, “Today was so hard,” you fire back without missing a beat: “That’s what she said.”

Level 2: The “we frame” — Keep the flirty jokes and sexual talk rolling, but now start framing it as you two together. This is where things get real. After she admits she’s into dominant men, you lean in and say, “Good. I love a woman who knows how to submit. We’re going to have a good time.” You’re planting the idea of you and her doing something together

Level 3: Opening the door to sexual topics — Now it’s time to move past the surface. Smoothly shift the conversation toward sex without making it feel forced. Say something like, “You definitely seem like the type who needs a man that knows how to take control.” She’ll agree — because you’re stating what most women already know deep down. From there, it’s natural to start talking about kinks, turn-ons, and preferences.

Level 4: Turning up the heat — This one is not a must. You could easily just use the first three levels and then start physically escalating (explained below). An example of this might be saying something like “you have no idea all the things I wanna do to you right now.” Statements like this will continue to ratchet up the sexual tension to a whole new level.

Level 5: Getting her to your room —This is called logistical escalation. The easiest way to do it is just to lead the girl to your room once some sexual tension is built or you can offer her massages or say you want to show her something. The exact wording doesn’t matter as long as you LEAD rather than ask. Also, this level can come at any time after Level 1

Pro tip – buy some BDSM items on Amazon like handcuffs or a paddle and have them laying on your counter in a very obvious place. Once a girl notices this, it’s gonna further add to the sexual tension and could provide a very easy path to sex.

5 levels of physical escalation

Level 1: Light touches on the arm or hand – this is the lightest form of physical escalation. Casually touch her hand or arm for a few seconds — ideally at a natural point in the conversation, like after she says something you like. Keep it quick and effortless.

Level 2: Closing the gap and sitting closer – you could argue this should happen first, but either way, moving closer builds a ton of sexual tension on its own. If she immediately leans away, don’t force it — just pause the escalation and focus on building more comfort first.

Level 3: Light touches on the knee or leg – same idea as Level 1, but now you’re touching her lower body. A hand on her leg is way more sexual than a hand on her arm, so save this move for after you’ve done the arm

Level 4: Extended touches & rubbing her leg – Now instead of pulling your hand away after a few seconds, you leave it there — gently rubbing her leg while you keep the conversation going. Do this in combination with verbal escalation so it feels natural.

Level 5: Running your hand through her hair – This is usually the final step before the make-out. Lightly play with her hair — if you’ve done everything right up to this point, her eyes should light up. She might even be the one to close the gap and kiss you.

Sealing the Deal

Once you’ve built adequate sexual tension by following some of the previously mentioned steps, you want to go in for the kiss. Once you’re making out, start slowly kissing down her neck while your hands explore her lower back or ass. Keep going lower, kissing down her body until you reach her chest. For most girls, sucking on her nipples is a huge turn-on. After that, you can guide her hand to your dick, take her top off, or push her up against the wall. The goal is simple: make her so turned on that she’s begging for sex⁠

Pro tip: Combine the physical & verbal escalation together for best results. And also remember: this isn’t some rigid checklist you have to follow in perfect order. Think of it more as a general roadmap. One of the most important skills you can develop is being able to feel the moment and improvise when necessary.

5 Other ways to make a girl horny

1) Hair pulling: This instantly puts a lotta girl in a submissive mode. Girls love having their hair pulled. Why? It gives them a feeling that you’re going to be taking control of her body with her head as the first step. Keep in mind to not yank her hair, always grip the root of her hair by grabbing a fistful of it.

I typically do this when I’m going for the make out. You can gauge a girl’s make out meter by how long she’s holding eye contact with the expression of “Well?”. Grab her around the waist with one hand and pull her close to you as you grip her hair and make out. This is kryptonite for the ladies. This gets them wet to no bounds.

Pro tip: Be the first one who stops the make out. If you let her stop it, you may fall into a chasing frame after. And as a beginner, you don’t want that.

2) Neck kisses: After the make out, the next step I go for is that I tilt her head to the side and kiss on the side of the neck, up and down her shoulder. I recommend doing this within a minute or two of the make out. Waiting, too long can kill the tension. Women love having their necks kissed and this can massively turn them on

Pro tip: There are three erogenous zones that women have that can make them extremely horny. Either the ear, the neck, or the collarbone. Most of the time it’ll be the last two. It can also be more then fun. Once you find the zone, you should see her eyes lighting up and even her moaning. Kissing there will be the key to getting her very turned on

3) Grabbing the ass: If she’s giving a green light for the above two, I start grabbing her booty without any hesitation. When grabbing it, I might say “oh my look at that ass”. Next I might give it a light spank from outside her dress. This shows dominance, and since most girls love being spanked, she will be turned on without fail. If she’s wearing a dress, I even tend to ask her to turn around and show her booty. I lift the dress up ever so slightly and then give another spank “Mmm. Can it handle a good spanking?”

4) Nipple stimulation: Most women have very sensitive nipples. Once we are making out and I start kissing down her body, I will spend extra time on her nipples. Kissing and sucking on them until she is extra horny

5) Lifting her up: This is a true dominant move and I’ve noticed girls are turned on like a switch when this is done right. If you workout and go to the gym, this shouldn’t be too hard. I typically lift the girl up while making out, make out more, move her closer to the bed and throw her on it. BOOM! She’s going to be wet.

3 Sexual Tension Killers to Avoid

There’s a few things that kill tension faster than Usain bolt. You have to make sure you avoid these

1. Nervous laughter: Stay away from this at all costs. Be aware that you might do this when you’re not comfortable in a situation. When girls hear this laughter, they can easily tell that you’re uncomfortable and you start loosing the sexual tension
2. Breaking  pauses in the convo: Breaking pauses when she’s still not feeling comfortable can be good since she gets more and more familiar with you and your vibe. But, once she’s comfortable and the tension starts building, don’t feel the need to talk whenever there’s a pause in the convo. Having those pauses will help build more sexual tension
3. Talking too much: Most guys make the common mistake of talking a lot about themselves, which is great way to make her loose interest. Especially when the topic is too logical and platonic. As a general rule of thumb on a date the girl should talk equal or more than you, but definitely not less. The way to get her to talk more is through asking interesting questions.

Conclusion

Follow the advice above to build sexual tension, while making the girl horny. This is imperative, because if a girl isn’t turned on she’s probably not going to sleep with you. This may seem challenging at first, but eventually it becomes second nature. The biggest thing is not to be afraid of rejection. It’s always better to try and fail, then not try at all. By trying a girl is at least going to respect you more cause she will see you’re not a pussy and aren’t afraid to go for what you want