How to Get Over Your Ego

EGO IS THE ENEMY!

Yes. I know that’s the name of a book but today I want to talk about ego and how it affects your game. Even without you consciously noticing it. In fact, your ego actually might even be stopping your progress in game. Everyone talks about how to get better at text game and game in general but no one really wants to get down to business about what might actually be plateauing your results.

  • Ever felt like you got too eager in your text?
  • Ever felt like you made the wrong move AFTER you sent a text?
  • Ever felt like just deleting the girl’s number and throwing your phone away?

Then, this is for you.

Firstly, why is the EGO that bad? I’ll try my best to define it in Layman terms since I couldn’t understand it myself when I googled the f out of it. EGO is sort of a projection of the image you have made up about yourself which has been the sum of all your life experiences. It’s something which has been cultivated so deep in your head that it’s almost automated and presents itself whenever it’s being threatened

Whenever this Ego is threatened, you go defensive and you get very emotional. It’s like you have a favorite teddy bear, Paul which you’ve owned your entire life and if someone tries to take it from you, you’d completely flip and get protective of it.

Now, why is this bad? We’re all at a point where we have some sort of technical knowledge in game. When you actually don’t have a mentor or someone accountable, you tend to stop thinking of Game objectively. You tend to put emotions behind every type of escalation you do. You’re hesitant, timid, and second-guessing every move you make since you put your ego on a pedestal and if you get rejected, your ego (self-preservation) takes a hit.

Now, how does this apply to text game and what can you do to avoid it?

We all know the 3 Golden rules of Text Game

  1. No Double Text
  2. No investing more than the Girl herself
  3. No interview question exchanges

No Double Text: To expand more on this, you DO NOT double text as a way of “Oh shit! Did I say something wrong? Did she get turned off? Should I text something more to save the interaction?”. This is a huge sign of weakness and insecurity and the girl will smell this and get turned off instantly. This is honestly the number 1 killer in a lot of interactions I see in this group. It gets even worse when the girl has her read receipts on. Women actually purposely do this to weed out the weak, insecure guys. So, No Damn Double Texting (NDDT)

No investing more than the Girl herself: This is a given but guys make this mistake to hold on to this one lead they got. This one girl who they picture themselves buying a white picket fenced house with. Watering the plants in the lawn while the wife is cooking some cake while looking sexy AF in an attire-less Apron. But, that never works out. You keep hoping that just by texting a lot you will get the girl to somehow like you. You never truly assume that the girl likes you anyway. This leads to being over gamey and just weird texts where the girl doesn’t even feel the need to reply and comes up with the “Sorry! I was busy excuse”

No interview question exchanges: Guys definitely do this way too much and bore the F out of the girl by making her answer questions she already answered during her HR round for her Job interview. You do it mainly out of the fear of being too edgy and playing it safe. But objectively speaking, you actually lose the girl with higher precision this way since she doesn’t feel the emotional obligation of wanting to meet you and that you don’t provoke interest and actually get blocked/ghosted like the kid who got picked last in Dodgeball

How to Avoid These Mistakes

Well, I will say it right now that it’s easier said than done but you need to consciously call it out to yourself whenever you feel like something’s triggering your emotions. No other human must provoke your emotions (unless it’s Iron Man’s death in Avenger’s Endgame). Girls will consciously or unconsciously do this to see if they can have dominion over your emotions. This is a sign of weakness.

When your leads test you, it’s not about how you deal with it verbally, it’s about how calm and unaffected you are emotionally by her saying “You’re too young for me”. Take deep breaths when you feel like you’re getting too emotional. Smile, take a seat and relax

What I’ve found quite helpful is meditating. You staying calm in the worst situations presented to you is the mark of a High-Value male.

Get a routine in your life where the girls are not that big of a priority. Gym, hobbies, work, and Hustle. All this will reinforce the fact that you’re an abundant man who can be calm under any circumstances. And this will just help you have more of a natural flow with a girl you’re talking to. Text or In-person

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Until Next Time, Curry man at your service 😛 (Indian PE)